Posts tagged ‘marriage’

December 5, 2012

Do Mindful Marriages Exist?

by mandy lipka

Written somewhere between 2008-2009

This morning I eaves-read in the Metro that Massachusetts is going to allow out-of-state gay couples to wed here. I was thrilled. Not only is it embracing the triumph of love (after all, if you’ve found it, who cares with whom— excluding first of kin, of course), but it will also boost the commonwealth’s economy. Plenty of my gay friends (the men in particular) would pay top dollar to tell the world she or he has fallen into crazy, can’t-live-without-each-other love.

LOVE - Photo Courtesy: elephantjournal.com

LOVE – Photo Courtesy: elephantjournal.com

But then, it having been pre-morning coffee and a 30-minute wait for the bus, I thought to myself, these days, marriage has turned into an ugly institution. I’ve experienced my grandmother’s divorce to my step-grandfather, my aunt’s divorce, my parent’s out-of-wedlock baby-making and later never-married separation, [mom’s recent divorce to step-father], and the repercussions of my grandmother’s divorce to my grandfather. My two uncles are still going strong in their marriages, but even those aren’t always sunshine and rainbows. I pray that my best friend, married last year, is part of the blissful 50%. Or is it 40% now?

read more »